Like MANY LGBT and straight people, I am able to be openly and deeply in love with more than one person at the SAME time.
We teach children to share food, toys and friends. How selfish, how cruel the child who demands that his child friend have no other friends or playmates! We adults can learn to share our lovers with others. We enjoy a variety of flowers, fruits, vegetables, colors, books, songs…Many of us also enjoy a variety of lovers!
A loving parent can have a deep special bond with each of several children. Can someone be a “faithful” parent only if he or she has and loves just one child? I REFUSE to let any man cage or fence me in romantically, so I have NO right to cage or fence him in.
Every man I have been in love with has taught me—helping me become a wiser and better friend and lover.
ALL romantic relationships face hurdles, bumps, conflicts… WHY put all our eggs into one basket? Invest our hearts in more than one lover and do it honestly with ALL involved! So if one lover backs out, moves away or dies, we may feel less devastated, less desperate, less abandoned and more able to cope in our sad loss.
I do NOT OWN any man, no matter how deeply I am in love with him. Good romance is NOT slavery! I cannot make any man FALL in love with me, I cannot make any man STAY in love with me and I am a fool if I try to force him!
I ask every couple getting married to PONDER—Do I even know myself or the other person or the future well enough to know for sure we BOTH will do WELL with ONLY each other romantically until death?
HELL NO to cover-ups, LIES, “cheating,” double standards, and insane jealousy! YES to deep intimacy and sexual pleasure shared generously with more than one person.
-Don Schrader