“What’s the big deal with prostates?”

Question: I’m a 30 year old heterosexual guy with what I thought was a sex-positive attitude, but when my friend casually mentioned prostate orgasms being way better than ‘regular’ orgasms, I’m pretty sure I blushed. My friend is also a straight guy (he has a girlfriend) and I don’t understand why he would even be into that. When I did an internet search I saw something about prostate orgasms being good for your health and now I’m even more confused. Can you teach me what’s the big deal with prostates? Are they some kind of magic health and pleasure button? -Anonymous

Answer: I’m excited to answer this question – it’s one we get a lot in the store. So many couples and singles experiment with anal play because it can feel delightful for anyone and add excitement. If you have a penis–it’s likely you have the bonus of a prostate, often called the male-g-spot or p-spot, because it provides a different orgasm than penile stimulation alone. Many people report using a prostate massager provides new levels of pleasure and can be easier than a manual massage. We carry a variety of prostate massagers in different sizes with different features like vibration or rotation to further enhance pleasure.

Beyond the added pleasure and sensation that can be achieved with prostate massage, it’s indeed good for the longevity and health of your prostate. The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that produces most of the fluid in semen. When you ejaculate, the prostate’s muscles push this fluid out through your urethra. Keeping your prostate happy and healthy through regular prostate massage can help you avoid issues like prostatitis, pelvic floor disfunction, and erectile dysfunction later on in life.

Many people still inaccurately think guys who like anal stimulation must be gay. This idea is illogical and homophobic. Gay men also like blowjobs, but we don’t see hetero men giving those up in fear of seeming gay! Stimulating a body part has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Touching the prostate directly or indirectly feels good and people enjoy things that feel good. Many men enjoy prostate play regardless of sexual orientation.

To learn even more, I recommend our bestselling book The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure. It delves into the joys of prostate play and walks you through each step of exploring safely at your own speed. Anatomy, how to find the prostate (solo or with a partner), tips for anal penetration, positions, toys, pegging, massage, prostate health–it’s all there. You are also welcome to come into the store and see the many resources we offer and ask our sex educators on-staff your questions.

Always seek the advice of a qualified healthcare provider for any medical condition.